The current global crisis has affected most of us in one way or another. Without the ability to go outside, our lives have become a little calmer (ok and maybe a bit more boring…), and that in itself can bring about anxiety, depression, and fear.
And if we’re stuck at home with our partner, it’s all too easy to take our frustrations out on them, simply because they’re just there. China saw record-breaking divorce rates after easing some of the lockdown laws, with couples struggling to stay sane after 2 months of being stuck together 24/7.
We all know being at home can be tough and you’re itching for things to do that don’t revolve around scrolling through your social media channels! So if you’re currently isolated with your partner, what can you do to keep yourselves entertained, not step on each other’s toes and keep your relationship healthy?
Escape Reality Into a Virtual World
People need a change of scenery, but if you can’t leave the house, what’s the next best thing? Have you ever tried virtual reality? All you need is some type of head-mounted display such as the Oculus Rift or the Google Cardboard and you’re ready to escape your house without actually leaving!
There are many things you can do with VR. As a couple, you could try experimenting with VR Porn, which can be a fun new thing to bring into the bedroom. For example, one of you could be watching the movie, whilst the other is pleasuring you physically. This can be incredibly arousing and can even help with any fantasies you may have, e.g. if you would love to try a threesome but your partner isn’t too keen on the idea.
VR can not only help with our sexual frustrations but also help with our basic need for being anywhere other than our home. You can have experiences in restaurants, forests, hair salons, gyms, other countries, you name it – if you’re missing a specific place, you can get transferred there at the touch of a button. Coupled with some nice “social” interactions and you’ve got yourself an escape from the drama of the real world and a beautiful adventure elsewhere!
And let’s not forget the games, of course! If you currently have more time on your hands, VR games can be a really fun way to pass the time.
Deepen Your Intimacy
In normal times, we often have many distractions – from friends to work – that can keep your relationship begging for more intimacy. This is a fantastic opportunity to really take the time to get to know each other better, to discuss how you see your future together, and to deepen your sexual connection.
We can also sometimes get stuck in a sexual routine, which can lead to frustration and a desire for something new. Why not try something different? Get some sex toys and use them on each other, take an online tantra class, discuss your secret fantasies, read an erotic novel together, learn shibari, do a sexy photoshoot or even just try some new positions. You never know what you might like until you try it, right?
You can look at this time together as a struggle, or you can use it to make your relationship stronger.
Sleep In Different Bedrooms
This might sound strange, but doing something so simple as sleeping in different rooms can be a lifesaver when you’re seeing someone every single hour of the day.
This doesn’t mean that you love your partner any less, but we as human beings need our space and we can get agitated if someone else is in our bubble all the time. If you feel that you both could benefit from this, then discuss it with your partner in advance and go over all the details. You may choose to do it once a week or every day – whatever suits you best. Sometimes just taking a small break from each other could make all the difference!
Make A Mood Board Together
Mood boards are a great way to set your intentions for your future and by actually creating something physical, you can look at it every day and remind yourselves of your goals and ambitions.
Since you’re sharing your life with your partner, it may be a nice idea to make a mood board together and plan what your life will be like after lockdown. This could also be a good opportunity to discuss certain topics like kids, marriage, travel, etc. Also, it’s a fun thing to do and you can put to good use those piles of magazines you have in the corner!